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Life should be lived to the point of tears

I recently came across the Japanese word ‘yugen’ and I immediately realized it embodies something that I was never quite able to put into words. Apparently ‘yugen’ is an untranslatable word but it has been described as ‘a profound awareness of the Universe that triggers feelings too deep and mysterious for words; the subtle grace and beauty in things that surround us.’ This got me thinking…I experience many ‘yugen moments’ throughout my day… I live by the sea so every time I go for my workouts on the beach and hear the sound of the waves I experience that moment of ‘otherness’, something bigger than me, as corny as that sounds…or when I’m on a plane and I have creative ideas or ‘aha’ moments, when I drink my coffee in the morning, when I listen to certain music, when I dance… So next time we talk to someone, instead of asking them how they are, we should ask…where’s the beauty in your life? How do you feed your soul? How do you witness profound feelings of ‘something else’? And I’m not talking about divine or otherworldly experience; I’m talking about this world, about experiences and feelings truly so deep…to the point of tears! Have you ever felt that? Being an extremely sensitive person as I am, I experience moments like these quite often. Maybe I feel too much or I pay too much attention to details, but I usually get these moments while travelling; on trains, planes, taxis…There’s something magical about sitting on the back of a speeding taxi and seeing your past, present and future unravel in front of your eyes…

There’s something about being in a foreign country, away from your ‘belongings’… Something similar happens when I am on a plane, only this time I get a strange awareness of myself, an acute perception of my body and my emotions. I feel as I am in a meditation state, as if I’m floating in a see with no waves. I experienced a similar ‘yugen moment’ while I was weightlessly floating in the Dead Sea, in Israel. You can’t dip your head in the water since it’s very salty; you simply float in a water with no waves and basically no life…breathtaking!

These are the moments I’m talking about, moments of complete awareness, feelings so deep which can transport us to other dimension where we feel…with every inch of us…to the point of tears!

Everyone shines, given the right lighting

It is very interesting to me how 95% of our decisions are made by how we feel in that moment, where we are, and who we are with.

As a tennis player, world traveler and  overall highly sensitive and emotional person, this seems to be the single most important factor in setting my mood for that particular day or moment. It is our choice to decide how we feel, even though “things” happen to us all the time…it is in our own power and judgement how we decide to deal with them…choice is less about what happens than it is how we deal with it! So if we hold the key to our happiness, why can’t we find THE emotional attitude to just be happy all the time?

All life forms strive to reach their maximum potential except human beings…how tall does a tree grow? As much as it possibly can!
However, things are not that simple. It is in our own power to decide our happiness… but life IS chaos! Everything moves towards entropy…it takes an incredible amount of effort and energy to bring order to that!
Back in my university days, when I was taking a History of Art class, we talked about this concept of Entropy, which is associated with the idea that the Universe tends towards disorder. As Murphy’s law states, “anything that can go wrong, will go wrong!”
As I said before, reversing this constantly increasing tendency toward disorder takes a hell lot of energy! We all know that energy flows where attention goes… However, as we talked in The Art of Simplicity  ,the energy put into preventing disorder in one place simultaneously increases it somewhere else, creating a force which will measure how close a system is to equilibrium, as well as a measure of a disorder in the system.
Since I am a tennis player, everyday I experience highs and lows, uncertainty, frustration, disappointment, excitement, hope, all of them almost at the same time! 🙂 During the period of a match, which can last from 1 hour up to 4 hours, the emotions are almost immediate…we miss and we win the point in a matter of few seconds! On a funnier note, as GSA’s founder Javier Captaine says, “in strict controlled conditions of arterial pressure, cardiac frequency, blood lactate, chatelaines, respiratory dynamics and rigorous planning, taking in consideration even the most minimal detail, the organism of a tennis player reacts exactly he way it pleases!” Funny… but so true!
We all say we want equilibrium, constancy, perfect balance, we say we are perfectionists, but how can that be possible if, as the Universe is constantly expanding, we are ever changing beings, open to be designed and in a permanent fluctuation?
We are stuck on experiencing bliss, extreme happiness and perfection, but oh how much energy we are wasting! We might achieve a temporary ecstasy, but then on Monday we are back to where we were…I believe it is easier than it has ever been to achieve bliss, but it is as hard as it has ever been to stay that way!

This takes me to my final thought: there is no such thing as perfect transfer of energy…no such thing as perfect state! We cannot control our emotions, as frightening as it sounds… We strive for perfection and to me, perfection is not only about control, but more about letting go! Finding that particular “light to shine”, where you can expand, grow and evolve on the edge of chaos!

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The Art of Simplicity

We begin with a clean slate…everyday…
We declutter our homes…
We declutter our minds…
We clean our bodies, we clean our souls…
Lately this seems to be the latest trend. We learn how to organize and let go of unnecessary stuff, to travel light, to clean our perception and to select our friends. It is all about learning what’s important…when you don’t know what’s important, everything’s important. We have to learn where to put our fucks; as the book, The subtle art of not giving a fuck, teaches us. So should we not give a fuck about anything, go our own way and speak our minds? This wouldn’t be a problem if we wouldn’t live in a world where human connections are priceless. We simply have to select our fucks and use them to create better, deeper and more meaningful connections. We can’t live isolated; not giving a fuck about what people say is ideal but not real. Of course we are hurt when we hear stories about us, rumors that most of the times are untrue…but as we agreed, we learn not to put our fucks there…No matter what, we always have a solution…our ability to choose… We feel upset, betrayed or disappointed because we choose to feel that…Without denying the pain, we can chose to deal with it and move on! No situation lasts forever and no one person is as important as you let it be…let the pain and the unconfortability be, it will make you stronger!
As a rule in life, whenever something bad happens to you, something good happens to another person…when you loose, somebody else wins, when someone dies, someone is born and so on…it’s the law of life…there will be great and tragic situations…is up to us  to define their power…
So I say, learn to live with simplicity, transparency, love, and help anyone you can, as it will somehow come back to you in a different form, maybe a person, maybe an experience, and maybe if you dig deep enough, you will find ikigai…the drive that will forever change the way you feel about life… your PURPOSE!