It is very interesting to me how 95% of our decisions are made by how we feel in that moment, where we are, and who we are with.
As a tennis player, world traveler and overall highly sensitive and emotional person, this seems to be the single most important factor in setting my mood for that particular day or moment. It is our choice to decide how we feel, even though “things” happen to us all the time…it is in our own power and judgement how we decide to deal with them…choice is less about what happens than it is how we deal with it! So if we hold the key to our happiness, why can’t we find THE emotional attitude to just be happy all the time?
All life forms strive to reach their maximum potential except human beings…how tall does a tree grow? As much as it possibly can!
However, things are not that simple. It is in our own power to decide our happiness… but life IS chaos! Everything moves towards entropy…it takes an incredible amount of effort and energy to bring order to that!
Back in my university days, when I was taking a History of Art class, we talked about this concept of Entropy, which is associated with the idea that the Universe tends towards disorder. As Murphy’s law states, “anything that can go wrong, will go wrong!”
As I said before, reversing this constantly increasing tendency toward disorder takes a hell lot of energy! We all know that energy flows where attention goes… However, as we talked in The Art of Simplicity
,the energy put into preventing disorder in one place simultaneously increases it somewhere else, creating a force which will measure how close a system is to equilibrium, as well as a measure of a disorder in the system.
Since I am a tennis player, everyday I experience highs and lows, uncertainty, frustration, disappointment, excitement, hope, all of them almost at the same time! 🙂 During the period of a match, which can last from 1 hour up to 4 hours, the emotions are almost immediate…we miss and we win the point in a matter of few seconds! On a funnier note, as GSA’s founder Javier Captaine says, “in strict controlled conditions of arterial pressure, cardiac frequency, blood lactate, chatelaines, respiratory dynamics and rigorous planning, taking in consideration even the most minimal detail, the organism of a tennis player reacts exactly he way it pleases!” Funny… but so true!
We all say we want equilibrium, constancy, perfect balance, we say we are perfectionists, but how can that be possible if, as the Universe is constantly expanding, we are ever changing beings, open to be designed and in a permanent fluctuation?
We are stuck on experiencing bliss, extreme happiness and perfection, but oh how much energy we are wasting! We might achieve a temporary ecstasy, but then on Monday we are back to where we were…I believe it is easier than it has ever been to achieve bliss, but it is as hard as it has ever been to stay that way!
This takes me to my final thought: there is no such thing as perfect transfer of energy…no such thing as perfect state! We cannot control our emotions, as frightening as it sounds… We strive for perfection and to me, perfection is not only about control, but more about letting go! Finding that particular “light to shine”, where you can expand, grow and evolve on the edge of chaos!